myth #1 – introverts don’t like to talk. this is not true. introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. they hate small talk. get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days.
myth #2 – introverts are shy. shyness has nothing to do with being an introvert. introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. what they need is a reason to interact. they don’t interact for the sake of interacting. if you want to talk to an introvert, just start talking. don’t worry about being polite.
myth #3 – introverts are rude. introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. they want everyone to just be real and honest. unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.
myth #4 – introverts don’t like people. on the contrary, introverts intensely value the few friends they have. they can count their close friends on one hand. if you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in.
myth #5 – introverts don’t like to go out in public. nonsense. introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. they also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. they take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” they’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. in fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for introverts.
if you’re going to make a career of it (and of course, if you want to excel, you will), that means taking the time to understand the texture of your field. it means investing, perhaps overinvesting, in relationships long before it’s in your interest to do so.
“don’t pursue your passion directly. at least not yet. instead… pursue the things that will empower you. pursue knowledge. be relentlessly curious. listen, learn. you’re leaving harvard this week, but your learning cannot ever, ever be allowed to stop. pursue discipline. it’s an old-fashioned word, but it’s never been more important. today’s world is full of an impossible number of distractions. the world-changers are those who find a way of ignoring most of them. and above all. pursue generosity. not just because it will add meaning to your life — though it will do that — but because your future is going to be built on great ideas and in the future you are entering, great ideas HAVE to be given away.”—